Home is supposed to be safe, supportive, and filled with love. But for many kids, that’s not the case.
If you’re dealing with yelling, fighting, drug or alcohol abuse, neglect, or emotional or physical abuse at home, you’re not alone. It’s hard. And it can leave you feeling trapped, angry, sad, or even numb. Just reading those words might make your stomach turn. But facing reality is the first step toward protecting yourself and finding support.
What Can You Do?
We wish there were a simple fix for this, but there isn’t. Still, there are a few things you can do to take care of yourself:
- Don’t blame yourself.
None of this is your fault. You’re a kid, and the adults in your life are supposed to know better. If they’re making bad choices, it’s on them, not you. - Talk to someone.
Find someone you trust and let them know what you’re dealing with. That could be a teacher, school counselor, coach, or religious leader. Even just saying it out loud can help you feel less alone. - Read a book.
Books can be a great way to learn how others have faced similar challenges. You might see yourself in a character or get ideas for how to cope. - Get out when you can.
Find a “safe place” where you can take a break — the library, a park, a friend’s house, or your grandma’s. Even a short walk can clear your head and give you space to think.
All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. ― Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina
Final Thoughts
It’s not your fault.
Even when adults mess up, you still get to choose how your story goes. Focus on your health, your education, and the things that make you feel safe and proud of yourself. You are not the cause of this. But you do have the power to take care of yourself and find support.
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